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This is just a note to let everyone know that I’m still alive over here but business has sure been dead. Simultaneously, traffic (and drama) on the major forums seems to have slowed for the most part although I’m told there’s still a raging ‘anonymous’ battle between Harajuku_tgirl and Nicole Dupre on HungDevils - I’m not getting involved – I’m pretty much out of the verbal boxing business due to a lack of legitimate competition.

Also, I’ve had real life money concerns, I’ve been driving my car with a damaged tranny (the one under the engine, not the one in the driver’s seat!), and have another roomie moving out amidst a lot of drama of her own. Of these, two appear to be working themselves out (I can’t wait to announce the name of my new celebrity roommate!) so that’s a silver lining, but life has been extremely stressful here. I empathize with everyone when I say it seems to be that way for most people right now, but hey, we weren’t asked to be dealt the hands we were given; that’s just life and we do the best we can with them. Well, most of us do anyway. Some put in a minimal amount of effort and expect an exponential return, but that’s a whole other conversation for another ‘boredom post.’

Anyway, things seem to be calming down here finally. I hope. I should have more time to blog since it’s become increasingly clear to me that a lot of you out there really love the ~BB~ Network concept. I understand that we girls aren’t the most prolific writers the world has ever known, but you should all understand that we do our best to keep you updated on our lives which – for many of you – are just as intriguing as the very concept of a woman with a penis.

On a similar note I want to take this opportunity to thank Danielle Foxx for her flattering imitation (never duplication) of my blog. On the site that will go unnamed, she blends insight into her work and private lives, promotional materials, and political musings such as this gem:

“Amen – I may be able to get health insurance??? Thank you president Obama, for all you do for those who cannot do it for themselves – I voted right!”

That was the entire post. And oh yes, those are indeed words for the ages. I’m not even going to go into my usual Libertarian diatribe over it except to say that I would like to remind Ms. Foxx that this issue is not nearly as simple as she portends, nor is the presidency of Barack Obama. Put me on record as being against a government-run health care system but for a very limited and closely regulated public option. Maybe I’ll elaborate in a later post… because I actually can.

One can only wonder where she got the idea for her new blog format in the first place (although one would barely need to) considering the recent criticism of her ‘self-defeating success’ and her lack of public advocacy for transsexual women . Congratulations Dani. You seem to have corrected your public image issue within the trans ‘community’ by stealing a few AP Wire stories and posting them without attribution. You’re… welcome?

Truth be told though, I’m not posting this as a slam to her (although I admit it’s certainly a ribbing), but in fact I would sincerely like to thank her, from the bottom of my heart, for validating the points that I made so early on in my still very young career – that it’s up to all performers to promote themselves and never just depend on someone else to do it for them, and that personality is only thing that porn pirates and torrent sites can’t steal  from us – for better or worse.

When you’re ready to claim your voice with a free blog on the ~BB~ Network, simply email bellabellucci@ymail.com.

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While some of us don’t really care about questionable terminology being used to describe us on an individual level, there are more of us that do and those opinions should be respected instead of rejected because the labels used for us in the porn business are only accepted insofar as they promote the niche. In fact, I’ve even noticed a recent trend to cut back on excessive uses of the words ‘tranny’ and ‘shemale’ by many producers. In Danielle’s case however, she’s post-op so her use of the terminology indicates an attitude of ‘once a tranny, always a tranny’ that would be far too easy for the majority cisgendered population to latch on to. That’s not good.

I’ve always agreed that gender is defined between the ears and not between the legs so it seems that all that surgery has not helped Danielle achieve peace or womanhood – I’d argue that she became a woman when she started LIVING HER LIFE accordingly – but since she got her SRS it seems that her attitude has actually regressed as evidenced by her insistence to use the word tranny in her website URL, her continued appearances on Maury, and her return to drag performing. Apparently she realized that it was more financially beneficial to be a pre-op than a post-op and so her gender between her ears has shifted accordingly back to something not quite male and not quite female, but something in between. There’s nothing wrong with that if that’s how she wants to live, but I also find it hysterically ironic. I am also saddened by the fact that I’ve been in the place where Danielle now is, teetering between what’s right and what’s right for me, and I’d offer to help if I didn’t know for sure my offer would be rudely rebuffed. I don’t attack Danielle because I dislike her. To the contrary, I only dislike what she does and the fact that she systematically fails to see the negative consequences of her greedy actions to the transsexual ‘community’ at large.

There are plenty of transwomen whose lives do not entirely revolve around ‘sucking dick for a living,’ as Danielle has so eloquently put it to me (even if that IS what they do for work – a job is not who you are), and they should not be forced to be belittled and marginalized because some individuals in the porn business are selfishly trying to make a buck by continuing to use derogatory terminology instead of seizing opportunities to change it.

Danielle’s not making a sacrifice to promote the niche or any other porn stars or even a company that helps promote other transsexual talent so that more of us can get our surgeries and move on with our lives. Instead, she completes the transition she thought for sure would make her happy and when it doesn’t she then goes on to blame her bills for her questionable marketing as she sells out every time she appears on Maury or otherwise allows people to treat her as less than human because, well, they’re paying for it. Danielle could care less about transsexual rights despite her convenient mention in her video about needing to get ready for a fund-raiser and so she obviously still hasn’t learned that money can’t solve all of our problems. She’s blown countless opportunities to give something big back in terms of symbolism and leadership by example over the span of her career but yet she wants to brag about her philanthropic appearances as she simultaneously tells her ‘sisters’ to ‘get over it.’

Danielle Foxx cares only for her paycheck. That’s what happens when your rent is more than many other peoples’ entire monthly budgets. It’s what happens when you believe that money (or surgery) will solve all of your problems. Just because someone has a spending problem, that doesn’t make it OK for them to frivolously waste all of their precious publicity to serve their own ends exclusively and simultaneously become a negative stereotype for all other people like her.

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